For sympathy, send flowers to the family’s home; for a funeral or wake, send to the service. White and soft-toned blooms, lilies, roses, chrysanthemums and hydrangea, are always appropriate, and a short handwritten note matters more than the size of the arrangement. Here is how to get it right with care.
Where to send, and when
- To the home: A comforting arrangement for the family says “thinking of you” and can be sent any time in the days and weeks after a loss.
- To the service: Standing sprays and larger tributes go to the funeral home or church, timed to arrive before the service. Confirm the address and timing first.
- Check customs: Some traditions welcome flowers warmly; others prefer donations. When unsure, a home arrangement is a safe, kind choice.
What flowers to choose
| Type | Meaning | Good for |
|---|---|---|
| White lilies | Peace, restored innocence | Services and home |
| White & soft roses | Love and respect | Any sympathy gesture |
| Chrysanthemums | Remembrance (traditional) | Services |
| Hydrangea | Heartfelt, gentle | Home arrangements |
Color and scent
Soft, restrained palettes, white, cream, blush, pale green, feel most appropriate. If the arrangement is for a home or a small indoor service, we keep the scent gentle so it is comforting rather than overwhelming. When we know something about the person, we will happily work in a color or flower they loved.
What to write on the card
Keep it simple and sincere. “With deepest sympathy,” “Thinking of you and your family,” or “Holding you close” are always enough. You do not need the perfect words, presence is the point.
FAQ
Is it better to send flowers to the home or the funeral?
Both are appropriate. Home arrangements comfort the family directly; service flowers honor the person publicly. If in doubt, send to the home.
What color flowers are best for sympathy?
White and soft tones are traditional and safe. A loved one’s favorite color is a thoughtful, welcome exception.
Can you deliver a sympathy arrangement the same day in Boston?
Yes, order by 1 PM. We deliver discreetly to homes, funeral homes and services across Greater Boston.
